Years ago, when I was first starting out on my conscious spiritual journey, I came across a book called “The Four Agreements.” It talked about how there were four things you could agree to that would ease most of the suffering that ails us. It’s a lot like the “Give Up These Things To Be Happy” articles and posts we see from Oprah or really any other online source, except what I liked about this was its focus on what you could choose to live from, and how by focusing on these things, all ills would automatically fall away.
Most others focus on the things you must give up in order to have a better life, while this showed what you could do instead of sifting through the closet of your subconscious, and purging bad habits.
So here they are, the agreements:
1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
― The Four Agreements, by Miguel Ruiz